For families who have chosen cremation for a loved one, the next decision involves what to do with the remains. Some choose to keep the cremated remains in their home, have them placed in a columbarium niche at a local cemetery, or scatter the ashes in a meaningful place.
We spend a great deal of time thinking about how we can best meet the unique needs of area families. After all, many of today's families simply aren't interested in doing things the same old way; in fact, they're actively looking for specialized funeral-related services.
As opposed to casting ashes over water, we can organize what’s referred to as a water ceremony which sees the cremation ashes put into a water-soluble urn. The urn will be placed in the water, it will float for a couple minutes before it begins to sink and dissolve. To conclude the ceremony, guests will often toss flowers, petals, or wreaths into the water as one final tribute. However, ensure the flowers or wreaths can easily decompose.
A trenching ceremony is another popular ash scattering ceremony. A trench or hole is dug into the ground and the ashes are scattered inside. At the conclusion of the ceremony, the family covers the trench or hole. Trenching ceremonies are ideal for those who loved to garden or loved nature. We have had many trenching ceremonies where the trench is dug under a tree or in a flower bed. Like a casting ceremony, you can get more creative. For example, we have seen trenches dug in the shape of a heart and trenches where the initials of a loved one are spelled out.
A slight variation on the trenching ceremony is a ringing ceremony. A trench is dug in a circle around a tree, flower, or something else of significance. Some families choose to create a memorial at the centre of the ring with candles, a picture of the deceased, or some type of memento like a favourite jersey.
A raking ceremony often takes place in large gardens or in flower beds. The ashes are dispersed evenly across a section of soil. Often, each family takes turns raking the ashes into the soil and as they do so they share a memory of the deceased with the other guests.
Scattering gardens are becoming very popular across North America. Many cemeteries have built beautiful scattering gardens where families can spread their loved one’s ashes alongside other members of the community. These garden areas grow beautiful trees and flowers, have a solemn and tranquil setting, have seating areas for quiet reflection, and are surrounded by plaques and markers.
Aerial ash scattering has been quickly growing in popularity. For this type of scattering ceremony, we will work with a private company that will fly your loved one’s ashes into the sky and release them. Aerial scattering can be done by plane, helicopter, hot air balloon, or even by a hang glider.
One negative about this type of ceremony is that you are often not allowed to fly in the plane with your loved one’s ashes. With some companies, you can pay an additional fee to fly along but the number of attendees and space will be limited.
Since families are usually unable to be involved in the scattering portion of the service, many families will organize a small ceremony with music, prayers, and speeches prior to the plane taking off. On a clear day, aerial ash scattering can be viewed from the ground. In addition, the company flying the aircraft will usually take photos of the scattering that families can take home as a keepsake.
You may also wish to check out our selection of scattering urns prior to making plans for your ceremony. Should you need advice on how to design a meaningful ash scattering ceremony, feel free to contact us. We can also help you determine where you can scatter ashes in Toronto if you're unsure.